Telling Friends and Fam You're Putting Down Booze

If you’re thinking about putting down alcohol in hopes of a happier and healthy life, go you! Booze just isn’t for everyone and often causes chaos for many people. We’re here to provide you with the best alcohol-free drink options, but also to share some knowledge. 

Sharing is definitely caring in the sober community.

Getting sober might require having some tough conversations. Being honest about your feelings and intentions is all you can do!

Here are a few things to keep in mind when talking to family and friends about your sober goals. 

The choice is completely yours. 

You don’t need permission from anyone to get sober. You also don’t need everyone to agree with you. If someone doesn’t support you wanting to better your life, then you might be better off without ‘em! You might get a few comments like, “who will I drink with now?” It’s not your responsibility to be anyone’s drinking buddy. Your only responsibility is to take care of yourself. 

Chances are, you only see that person when alcohol is involved. Bar friends are often not genuine friends. That doesn’t make them bad people, just not the best fit for your lifestyle. 

No need to get detailed. 

All you have to say is this - “I’m getting sober and I’d love to have your support in this journey.”  No need to tell everyone everything you’ve ever done. Now, it may be helpful to discuss your experience with addiction with a close friend or therapist. Just don’t feel pressured to expose everything! 

When someone asks if you’d like a drink, it’s perfectly acceptable to just say no. People who support you won’t push you for an explanation. 

The right people at the right time.

When you’re beginning your sober journey it’s totally up to you who you’re vulnerable with. It may be easier to just start with those closest to you - the people you interact with most often. Then, once you feel comfortable you can share with more people. There is no need to tell anyone, but sometimes it helps to have support! Telling your entire Facebook list on day one might be overwhelming, so just be sure to protect yourself. 

Answering questions you don’t know the answer to.

Friends and family might ask what your plan is, or how long you’ll be sober. If you don’t have the answer, just say that! You don’t need to know everything right away. You’re just doing your best. 

Ask for what you need. 

If you’re looking for support and guidance, don’t be afraid to ask for it. Maybe you just need some space and alone time to find what you’re looking for! Be direct and honest about what will help you the most in reaching your goal of sobriety. 

Just remember that the choice is yours! Put yourself and your sobriety first. If someone in your life is unsupportive, take some space away for a while. They may come around, but you don’t need someone who can’t support you bettering your life. You’ve got this! 

This post was written by Nicole Nettell. Nicole is a sobriety advocate and the writer behind Everseeking Copy. To work with her, visit